| 3 points to show my take on relationships. |
[Jan. 24th, 2008|08:04 pm] |
1. treasuring one another
sounds like something very easy to do, but after a period of time, one tends to lose focus and concentrate on other stuff. it's definitely not difficult to get caught up in work, friends, and other hobbies/interests, but knowing and remembering what your priorities are from time to time really helps.
if you cherish someone, then why not show it through the things you do. it's all too easy to say things but not mean them. actions always speaks louder than words, because after a long period of interaction, words become fluff.
2. sacrifice
as one moves from one stage of life to another, it'll definitely get more tedious in making sacrifices for one another. however it may all seem to get easier, if you value and treasure each other's opinions about things, respecting each other's points of view and perhaps to a certain extent, adapting and suiting to each other's lives. in some cases, these changes are only temporary and simply just a phase in life. But if it's going to be permanent, then one must consider whether the accumulated sacrifice is going to be worthwhile for the future and therefore be willing to brush off matters which may seem big at the moment, but may become minor in the time to come.
acceptance is key. but sometimes, too negative a factor might cause one to not accept after all.
3. trust and accountability
i lumped these two words together because they work hand-in-hand. there will be no relationship without trust. trust is like a porcelain vase. once that trust is broken, it cannot pieced back to exactly the same way it once was, because all that "scotch tape and glue" has already affected that special link between the two parties. moreover, all that pieces all over the place, you don't even know where to start to re-create the same thing back.
on the other hand, with that trust given, much accountability would need to provided to ensure that both are on the same page and are working together to make things work out. there is no point for deception because the truth will always be found out in one way or another, and once it's discovered, it will only make matters worse. thus, being responsible and accountable to another is never a bad thing. even though the other part may not like it initially, at least one would know that it's only the truth.
and yes, sometimes truths hurt.
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notice i did not put love as one of the points. because that is already mandatory. it should already be there in the first place before the relationship can begin. and if it's not, then i guess it shouldn't be considered as one after all. and if you actually love someone, then these 3 points will fall into its rightful place soon enough. period. |
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[Jan. 16th, 2008|02:39 pm] |
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don't live to regret a second time. |
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[Jan. 10th, 2008|11:58 am] |
i just signed my life away with UBS.
welcome to the next phase in life. :) |
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[Dec. 24th, 2007|09:47 am] |
today is a half day of work and then it's holiday again! yay!
it's a good thing that singapore is a multicultural society.. with hari raya haji and christmas so close to each other!
hopefully tonight will be fun!
:) |
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[Dec. 17th, 2007|11:21 pm] |
i think doing an internship at bti consultants was the correct choice. from the boss down, everyone is like your friend, partner in crime and everyone has a sense of belonging to the company. the culture is amazing. i'm like the youngest there. everyone is like in their 30s and 40s or so. except for jace, who's like kiat's senior and one of my mentors. i'm the only intern, but these people make you feel special. like as if you're a part of them already... well somewhat. and that makes me happy.
although i'm thrown quite a lot of work to do, guess it keeps my mind working, and my blood flowing right after exams. and my colleagues are very willing to help as well. so that's really great.
though i'm sad about other things, maybe working isn't that bad after all. keeps your mind off things. i hope it stays that way. :)
welcome back! well soon. i'm happy that there is hari raya and christmas coming up! holiday!!! |
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[Dec. 12th, 2007|02:14 pm] |
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i'm just waiting to go home to cry. |
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| my nice little workplace with much randomness. |
[Dec. 11th, 2007|01:51 pm] |
today, my colleague asked me whether i knew what Ménage à trois was, whilst having a random conversation on foie gras. haha.
thank you jace for lunch!
and just found out my lovely boss who is this really impressive indian lady knows how to speak french! |
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[Dec. 11th, 2007|01:13 am] |
ive literally been feeling like im being strangled the whole day. it seems to be hard to swallow food or drink from the time i woke up till now. i thought it was some occasional thing that happens when you just wake up in the morning and you suddenly start eating. but i'm not sure why is it still happening now.
pain.
i feel pain everywhere. my ankles, my throat, my heart.
never thought i could do so badly this semester.haven't got all the results yet and i'm like preparing myself for the worst.
i'm so glad i'm finally out of school. yet again i'm gonna miss it. but i think i'm not prepared to do anything now. i'm worried about this and that and in the end if it all comes crashing down on me, maybe that will be the time i'll wake up.
writing to myself sometimes doesn't feel so bad after all. because it is times like these that i feel more alone. trying to make things right.
i think i need a break.it's gonna be quite a while till i get it. |
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[Nov. 30th, 2007|02:25 am] |
i'm done with my last papers in SMU! though it wasn't as great as i wished it was, at least it's over. so screwed, and i'm not looking forward to the results!
i'm really a gong thinking you were coming back on the 16th. :( oh well.
and yes, it's not always about me. it's always more about you! |
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